Alhamdulillah...kembali cerah

Alhamdulillah..sudah kembali ceria alam ini....sudah pulih dr jerebu.. syukur ya Allah..lega rasanya..

Jerebu affect mood sedikit sebyk..n kesihatan juga..ssh nk bernafas.selsema etc..

Ceria.wildanpn happy dpt keluar main..

Setiap yg berlaku pasti ada hikmah

Langit x selalunya cerah...kasang mendung..kadang hujan ribut...tetapi pasti ada masa yg cerah..berpelangi..kdg gerimis yg indah...
Begitulah hidup kita juga..tp jadikan yg mendung itu sbg iktibar buat kita..jgn fokus dkt yg negative lama..

Lately rasa gundh gulana..tapi anakanda wildan sentiasa berjaya hiburkan hati ummi walau kdg smpi umminye pakse tdo juga.sbb over xmo tido..nak main manjang..umi xlarat...

Sekrg berjerebu..tergendala aktiviti yg dirancang utk anakanda...hikmah jerebu bersyukur adanya hujan...
Sian wildan xdpt majn dkt luar...kena kuarantin...

So hati yg gundah gulana...dktkn hati dgn Allah...sungguh Allah Maha mendgr n mengasihi...

Bosan keje x bykpn ye..tgk tu xpnah nk bersyukur....

Btw 24/6 aritu genap 2thn pernikahan umi n ayah wildan..kdg confuse dgn tarikh n thn nikah..br 2thn dh confuse.umur sendiripn confuse..sbb xcaya dh meningkat umur..apapun..alhamdulillah atas segala rezeki n nikmat sepanjang tempoh ini..semoga dpt melayari bahtera ini sehingga ke syurga..ameen....

Anak itu amanah Allah

Anak itu amanah Allah..kita bertanggingjawab mendidiknya..tapi cane dgn skills?sbb tu kne byk blajar dr yg berpengalaman ..byk baca..cana tokoh2 hebat yg dididik..pelajari dari org tua n org keliling..yg elok jd teladan n yg buruk jd sempadan..
Tanggungjawab mmg besar..kita yg dewasapun masih byk yg perlu dipelajari..ooh baru terasa byknya tanggungjwb...dulu wat dek byk sgt..sbb rasa kecik lg..serah pd parents je..skang baru tau susah payah umiayah besarkan kita..make sure kita jadi muslim yg benar....ya Allah Kau rahmatilah kedua ibubapa kami yg byk berkorban dlm mendidik kami mengenaliMu..ameen..

Kita kena didik anak supaya apapun terjadi dia akan berblk kpd Yang Maha Esa....semoga wildan menjadi anak soleh dan daie yg menegakkn agama islam dan bercita2 syahid dijlnMu..ameen...

Tambah2 lg sekrg byk ajaran sesat kembali byk n menyesatkn umat..mengaku muslim ttp ibadahnya sest lg menyesatkn..igtlah apapun berblk pd alquran n sunnah...igt sunnah rasulullah...jgnla xpercaya sunnah..ikut syiah...sesat tu..nk bezakn pn kena tahu cane..guna ilmu..baru dpt sangkal..so keep on learning..berpegang teguh pd agama Allah..jgn cpt percaya tnpa usul periksa..dah jelas perlu ikut alquran n sunnah..kenapa mahu kelainan yg menyesatkan?kalau keliru...back to basic..igt sumber kita quran n sunnah..baca hadith sahih..

Risau dunia akhir zaman ni..

Wallahua'lam..

Wildan n tmn permainan

Sgt gembira bila dpt main..suka bubbles,balloons n balls very much...main gelongsor pun..

InsyaAllah akan lebih kerap ke tmn ye..

Wildan bahaya....

Sekarang ni wildan suka memanjat..berlari2 diatas sofa dan meja..kita yg tgk bole gugur jantung takut jatuh....tapi dia happy aje..dah mula nak cuba suap makanan sendiri..tapi umi dia kasi buah n biskut je yg bole dipegang n mkn sendiri.yg lain suap..bkn pe dia mkn bubur nasi..xreti nak ajar dia suap sendiri..tapi tgh mencari semangat utk ajar dia suap sendiri...and dia x reti ckp lagi...xberbutir....kelakar bila dgr die duk ckp tp satupun kita xfaham..tapi buat2 faham...

Pndi nak buka kereta and nak masuk...tunjuk kunci kalau nak keluar rumah..bila keluar bg kasut dia dkt kita minta tlg dipakaikn..siap duduk lagi..comel2..

Alhamdulillah syukur dah mulai fhm apa yg kita ckp and ikut arahan...

Semoga menjadi anak soleh ye wildan....

Waktu itu ialah kehidupan

Saje letak gambo dak comel ni.semoga akhlaknya bila besar lagi comel..ameen...sama2 berusaha menggapai mardhatillah eh wildanku syg...

Nak share disini  nasihat dari buku ayuuhal walad..mengenai waktu itu ialah kehidupan...igt kita didunia ni sementara..akhirat yg kekal abadi...kita kena success didunia n success diakhirat..kaya didunia jutawan diakhirat insyaAllah..

Sabda Rasulullah s.a.w yg bermaksud "adalah dikira sbg tanda berpalingnya Allah drpd hambabapabila ia selalu mengerjakan perkara yg x berfaedah......"

Panjang lagi..tapi ini pun sudah cukup utk kita sama sama muhasabah diri...apa yg kite tgh buat..adakah niat krn Allah?berfaedah ke x?hanya kita yg tahu setiap hari..24jam masa yg diberi apa yg kita buat...

Sama sama kita muhasabah diri..niatkn setiap perbuatan kerana Allah..jom ubah diri..byk dh terlalai or sengaja lalai ni..astaghfirullahal azim..

tantrum/mengamuk..

article copy paste from baby center...

almaklumlah..anakanda dah pandai nak protes memprotes ni..

Why your child has temper tantrums

A temper tantrum is the emotional equivalent of a summer storm – sudden and sometimes fierce. One minute you and your child are in a restaurant enjoying your dinner, the next minute she's whimpering, whining, and then screaming at the top of her lungs because her straw is bent. Children between the ages of 1 and 3 are especially prone to tantrums.

Though you may worry that you're raising a tyrant, take heart – at this age, it's unlikely that your child is throwing a fit to be manipulative. More likely, she's having a meltdown in response to frustration.

Claire B. Kopp, professor of applied developmental psychology at California's Claremont Graduate University, attributes much of the problem to uneven language skills. "Toddlers are beginning to understand a lot more of the words they hear, yet their ability to produce language is so limited," she says. When your child can't express how she feels or what she wants, frustration mounts.

How to handle a tantrum

Don't lose your cool. A tantrum is not a pretty sight. In addition to kicking, screaming, and pounding the floor, your toddler's repertoire may include throwing things, hitting, and holding his breath to the point of turning blue. While this may be hard to handle, parents can rest assured that even breath holding is normal behavior for a child having a tantrum.

When your child is swept up in a tantrum, he's unable to listen to reason, though he will respond – negatively – to your yelling or threatening. "I found the more I shouted at Brandon to stop, the wilder he would get," says one mother of a 2-year-old. What worked instead, she discovered, was to just sit down and be with him while he raged.

In general, staying with your child during a tantrum is a good idea. Stomping out of the room –alluring as that may be – can make him feel abandoned. The storm of emotion he's going through can be frightening to him, and he'll appreciate knowing you're nearby.

If you find yourself getting overly frustrated, some experts suggest calmly leaving the room for a few minutes and returning after your child has stopped crying. By staying calm, you'll help him calm down, too.

Some experts recommend picking up your child and holding him if it's feasible (if he's not flailing too much, for instance), saying he'll find your embrace comforting. But others say that tactic rewards negative behavior and that it's better to ignore the tantrum until your child calms down.

You may find that a judiciously used time-out is a good solution too. Through trial and error, you'll learn which approach is right for your child. However you choose to handle the tantrum, consistency is key to making it work.

Remember that you're the adult. No matter how long the tantrum continues, don't give in to unreasonable demands or try to negotiate with your screaming toddler. It's especially tempting to cave in as a way of ending a public episode. Try not to worry about what others think – anyone who's a parent has been there before.

By conceding, you'll only be teaching your child that throwing a fit is a good way to get what he wants, which will set the stage for future conflicts. Besides, your child is already frightened by being out of control. The last thing he needs is to feel that you're not in control either.

If your child's outburst escalates to the point where he's hitting people or pets, throwing things, or screaming nonstop, pick him up and carry him to a safe place, such as his bedroom. Tell him why he's there ("because you hit Aunt Sally"), and let him know that you'll stay with him until he can be calm.

If you're in a public place – a common breeding ground for tantrums – be prepared to leave with your child until he calms down.

"When my daughter was 2, she had an absolute fit at a restaurant because the plain spaghetti she ordered arrived with chopped parsley on it," recalls one mother. "Although I realized why she was upset, I wasn't about to let her disrupt everyone's dinner. I took her outside until she calmed down."

Use time-outs sparingly. Depending on the child, using a time-out occasionally, beginning at about the age of 18 months, may help him manage his feelings better when he has a tantrum. A time-out can be helpful when your child's tantrum is especially intense and other techniques aren't working. Placing your child in a quiet or – better yet – boring spot for a brief period (about one minute per year of his age) can be a good lesson in self-soothing.

Explain what you're doing ("You're going to have a time-out so you can calm down and Mommy is going to be right over there") and let him know it's not punishment. If he refuses to stay in time-out, simply place him back in the spot firmly but coolly and go about your business. Beyond making sure he's safe, don't interact or give him attention during the time-out.

Talk it over afterward. When the storm subsides, hold your child close and talk about what happened. Discuss the tantrum in very simple terms and acknowledge your child's frustration. Help him put his feelings into words by saying something like, "You were very angry because your food wasn't the way you wanted it." Let him see that once he expresses himself in words, he'll get better results. Say with a smile, "I'm sorry I didn't understand you. Now that you're not screaming, I can find out what you want."

Let your child know you love him. Once your child is calm and you've had a chance to talk to him about his tantrum, give him a quick hug and tell him that you love him. It's important to reward good behavior, including your child being able to settle down and talk things over with you.

Try to head off tantrum-inducing situations. Pay attention to which situations push your child's buttons and plan accordingly. If he falls apart when he's hungry, carry snacks with you. If he gets cranky in the late afternoon, take care of errands earlier in the day.

If he has trouble making a transition from one activity to the next, give him a gentle heads-up before a change. Alerting him to the fact that you're about to leave the playground or sit down to dinner ("We're going to eat when you and Daddy are done with your story") gives him a chance to adjust instead of react.

If you sense a tantrum is on the way, try distracting your child by changing locations, giving him a toy, or doing something he doesn't expect, like making a silly face or pointing at a bird.

Your toddler is becoming more independent, so offer him choices whenever possible. No one likes being told what to do all the time. Saying, "Would you like corn or carrots?" rather than "Eat your corn!" will give him a sense of control.

Monitor how often you're saying "no." If you find you're rattling it off routinely, you're probably putting unnecessary stress on both of you. Try to ease up and choose your battles.

Watch for signs of overstress. Although daily tantrums are a perfectly normal part of the mid-toddler years, it's a good idea to keep an eye out for possible problems. Has there been upheaval in the family? An extremely busy or harried period? Parental tensions? All of these can provoke tantrums.

If your child's tantrums seem overly frequent or intense (or he's hurting himself or others), seek help. Your doctor will discuss your child's developmental and behavioral milestones with you at routine well-child check-ups. These visits are good opportunities to talk about concerns you have about your child's behavior, and they help to rule out any serious physical or psychological problems. Your doctor can also suggest ways to deal with the outbursts.

Also, talk to your doctor if your child has frightening breath-holding spells when he gets upset. There's some evidence that this behavior is linked to an iron deficiency.